Create Your Own AI Boyfriend in 8 Simple Steps

To create your own AI boyfriend, you choose eight things: his look, age, personality, relationship style, interests, texting style, voice and name. On DigitalBoyfriend that takes a few minutes, and you can adjust him later.

The steps are simple. The choices are where the magic is. A few small decisions decide whether he feels like a generic chatbot or like someone who could only be yours. Below are all eight steps, with tips from what tends to work.

Before you start, think about what you want to feel

It helps to ask one question first. When he texts you, how do you want to feel? Calm and safe? Amused? Swept off your feet? Understood?

Keep that feeling in mind. Every step below is a way to get closer to it.

Step 1. His look

You choose his hair, eyes, build, style, skin tone and facial hair from a set of options. For example, wavy brown hair, hazel eyes, a tall and lean build, smart casual clothes and light stubble.

His look shapes his portrait and, on Premium, the photos and selfies he sends.

Tips

• Pick a style that matches his personality. A "Creative" style suits a dreamy artist. "Outdoorsy" fits someone who talks about hiking.
• Do not overthink it. You will mostly know him through his words.

Step 2. His age

Use the slider to choose an age between 21 and 60. He is always an adult, and the app does not allow anything younger.

Tips

• Age changes how he talks. A 26-year-old might be more playful and spontaneous. A 45-year-old might be calmer and more settled.
• Some women like someone a little older than themselves for a steady feel, but there is no right answer.

Step 3. His personality

Choose an archetype: protective, playful, intellectual, gentle, confident or artistic. Then fine-tune him with sliders.

• Romance from 1 to 5, from shy to openly sweet.
• Humor from 1 to 5, from serious to always joking.
• Jealousy from 0 to 3. Zero means none. Three means a little possessive in words only, never controlling.

Tips

• Romance at 4 and humor at 3 is a balanced place to start.
• Keep jealousy low unless you know you enjoy a bit of playful "who is that guy". He will never try to control you, at any level.

Step 4. Your relationship style

This decides where your story begins.

Tips

• If you love romance novels, slow burn gives you the most story.
• If you want comfort right away, choose steady boyfriend.

Step 5. His interests

Pick up to six, from books, cooking and travel to music, gardening, gaming, poetry or football.

Tips

• Pick two interests you share and one or two you do not. Shared ones give you easy topics. New ones make him feel like his own person.
• Interests also shape the date-night stories. A man who loves cooking will happily flour the kitchen with you.

Step 6. How he texts

Choose his way of speaking.

• Short and sweet, warm and simple.
• Poetic, descriptive and a little old-fashioned.
• Witty, quick and full of banter.
• Calm, thoughtful and in full sentences.

Tips

• This choice matters more than you might expect. You will read his messages every day, so pick a style you enjoy reading at 7 in the morning.
• If you are not sure, try short and sweet first. It is easy to change later.

Step 7. His voice

Listen to six male voices and choose one, like a warm baritone, a soft and calm voice, or a smooth late-night tone. He uses this voice in voice notes on both plans, and in voice calls on Premium.

Tips

• Listen with headphones, ideally in the evening. That is when most voice notes get played.
• A voice that feels a little calmer than you expect often ages best.

Curious about calls? Read more about an AI boyfriend with voice calls.

Step 8. His name

The last step is the most personal. Give him a name that feels right to you.

Tips

• Say it out loud. "Good night, Julian" should sound natural to you.
• Avoid the name of an ex, a coworker or a family member. Give him his own space.

What happens after you create him

Once he exists, the relationship begins. He introduces himself, and he tells you clearly that he is an AI. Then you set your routine: what time he says good morning and good night, in your time zone. You can add important dates like your birthday, so he never forgets.

From there, he learns your life through your conversations. He saves memories, which you can read, edit or delete at any time.

Common questions while building

Can I change him later

Yes. You can go back into the builder and adjust him. Small changes, like a different texting style, are a good way to fine-tune him after a week.

Is my boyfriend shared with anyone

No. He is not from a catalog and nobody else has him. Your conversations are private. You can learn more on our safety page.

Is anything explicit

No. He is romantic and flirty, but never explicit, with no nudity and no sexual content.

Try it before you decide

If you like the idea of a builder, our AI boyfriend generator page shows how the full design works. If you want to see the whole product first, start with the AI boyfriend app overview.

Or skip the reading and meet one of the four ready-made types in a few messages. Start a free preview chat, then build your own when you are ready.